Growing up in church, pretty much the only dating advice I heard was: "Make sure you marry a Christian." But what no one told me is that Christians can also be crazy! So today I want to share 7 things to look for in a guy (plus a bonus tip from my hubby James). And comment below: What else would you add to this list? Love, Tiffany Dawn
IS HE RIGHT FOR YOU?
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1. Faith: Are you on the same page? (But remember, he might express his faith differently than you do.)
2. How does he treat people?
3. How does he respond to correction?
4. Do you enjoy the little things in life together?
5. Is he responsible (and wise with money)?
6. Are you able to talk through hard things and disagreements?
7. Are you drawn to each other?
8. THAT'S A SURPRISE AT THE END OF THE VIDEO!! (Thanks, James...😘)
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I really love this. I just started watching your videos! These are amazing statements. I also believe you should identify if it's easy to have a conversation with the person and if it's easy to be yourself. That's what you should look for as well ♥️
Money money money money...that's all woman wants looks . Status and resources us all these women want. 1st thing about Jesus is a nonce is non sequitur. They're lying about that. It's the way you look. Resources among you have. You can be a jerk d********. And these women will go all over you because you got the resources and money or least they thank you do You want to sit down and talk to In the 1st place. Women are all feelings emotions I have no minds. They were may for sex and having children that was it. The rest is b.s.
+Laundry Sanitizer with 0% Bleach well i can see in your name why you value it so much XD. But yea, we need to be educated on not just brushing our teeth, but using a good facial washing regime+ moisturizer, as well as the hair. And on the mention of hair, guys need to learn to shave some of that back,neck and trim armpit hair, its getting gross. Some say that it isn't masculine, i say they are foolish. Thats just my 2 cents.
JustJake ..ughh YES! Like scraping white bad breath filth off Tongue and flossing daily... it’s been a paranoia I have because honestly... many guys are nasty and don’t exfoliate or have a clean mouth so I really hope if it’s God’s will for me to get married, that it’s an ocd clean man w excellent hygiene to my standards. I hope i don’t sound shallow for this but I really can’t help it. It’s Partly why I used to be a lesbian since women are cleaner by far _on average_ but praise God he removed that sin from my life
Hi Tiffany, I’m a new subscriber and I’ve been so blessed by your videos. I think I’ve watched almost all your Christian dating advice videos! It has helped to understand myself better, to know what to look for in a dating relationship and how to progress from there. Thank you for choosing to live a Christ-centered life! Continue making these awesome videos! God bless you! :)
So beyond true!! Once I got saved I felt so "protected" and thought it meant any guy I dated who shared my faith who I met through Church would be an amazing person who treated me like a queen!.... I could not have been any further from the truth, the biggest A Hole I ever dated was a supposed "great church going Christian guy" he trash talked all his past relationships, had no long term friendships or fam relationships, treated waitstaff like trash, treated women like commodities, and I looked past it because I thought I must be mis-interpreting seeing as he was "a great Christian guy" Thankfully that relationship taught me to look for a man who shares my passions, who has lifelong friends (ie a sign when people enter his life they actual want to stick around), a man who valued women, a man who cared about people! It was the most awful relationship of my life, but it led me to seeking out and recognizing the love of my life, Being with an absolute jerk will, atleast hopefully, teach you what is actually important in a relationship! It made me 100x more thankful for my husband when I found him because I knew how rare and valuable a man like him was!!!!
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I appreciate your videos so much. You are truly able to get these vital points to us, with genuine honesty. I feel that girls and women are in need of this information especially since we may not have had great information growing up. And if you add that to all the times we doubt ourselves, it can get pretty crazy and confusing at times. 😜 it's so true about the "fake" person who has their "act" together at church, but isn't really showing their true self. Knowing what to look for and not being afraid to ask the tough questions are definitely so important. Thank you for another awesome video.
Now that's a cool idea! I think a lot of items are pretty similar for guys and for girls, but maybe I could get a few guys to say what they think is important to look for in a girl. I'll have to think about this more! Thanks for the idea! :)
Certiixv / Hey, Don’t take this the wrong way, I Just wanted to share the most valuable information of our life time with you! 😄
*GOD'S PLAN OF SALVATION*
*Hear God's Word*
*Believe the Gospel*
*Repent of Your Sins*
*Confess Faith in Jesus*
*Live Faithfully Unto Death*
*For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.*
2 Timothy 4:3
But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:
So Christ was once offered to bear the sins of many; and unto them that look for him shall he appear the second time apart from sin unto salvation.
The Lord is not slack concerning his promise as many count slackness but is long suffering towards us not wishing that any perish but that all should come to repentance.
[2 Peter 3:9]
All very good points! Especially your point about how some church goers can be “crazy” (I even hesitate to call certain people in church “Christian”, as going to church all your life is obviously no guarantee that you will start acting like Christ.). Even if someone is a sincere Christian, and is really trying to display spiritual fruit (rather than just acting like a religious nut), they still might have different convictions than you about certain things, and that could lead to friction (read Romans chapter 14 in its entirety if you don’t know what I am talking about.). For example, you two might have a different idea about whether or not smoking tobacco is a sin or not, and that could cause arguments if one of you smokes. What about, is it OK to see “R” rated movies? Is dancing OK, or does it promote lustful thoughts? Is it a sin to eat delicious food (indulging the senses)? Is it disrespectful to God to wear casual clothes to Sunday morning services? Should women wear pants, or is that immodest? What about wearing shorts, or hats indoors (1 Cor. 11:7)? What about drinking wine or beer in moderation; is that OK, or is it awful? Simply going to the same church is no guarantee that you will agree on all of these issues, and some people are quite hard-headed and controlling about this, as they see EVERYTHING as a black or white issue, and there is no nuance. What if you go to see a movie that your spouse thinks is evil, and you argue about it for weeks (sounds like more of a control freak, if he or she does this, rather than someone who is really concerned with your spiritual health). These issues and arguments happen, and the arguments might get worse after you have children.
2/3rds way through the vid. i absolutely adore the relationship you have with james, i feel great knowing about genuine love in this world! i really hope that your marriage and even the friendship you have with him stays strong. much love <3
Just know that the bible has zero verses as to how to date. It only talks about how to be a God fearing husband and wife. It's not bad to have standards. You can have millions of standards. But just make those standards realistic and biblical.
Example, I often heard that women (men are guilty of this also). Say that they want their potential spouse candidate to absolutely love the Lord. I'm confident with what the bible tells me, and I don't even have to know who is reading to know that you don't love the Lord, completely. I'm going to pick on myself to explain. Jesus said that if we love him, we will keep his commandments. The bible also says that none is righteous, no, not one. There is areas in my life that I'm still disobedient and sins that I still give into. We are a work in progress as long as we are willing to yield to the Lord. Including your potential spouse. With me my only standard is that they're born again. With my intention being that I want to pursue the Lord with my best female friend.
So there is the unrealistic expectation. You want your spouse to be flawless. You want your marriage to be trial and tribulation free.
You have a responsibility Christian to know the Word. Also to test the spirits.
1:18 reminds me of jerry Seinfeld where he dated Someone just like him in this case everything u wanted in someone only to find out he hates him self.always to to be very different since opposites attack
Thanks for this Tiffany! I am single girl and I grew up in Christian family and I am studying in a bible school..So I have a question. I think I am in love with a guy 2, years now, who is a year older than me, he wants to become a pastor and blah...He is such a good person! But I think he has a little bit changed (a little bit "cold" or maybe it's my idea)since he went for his army obligations and he is finishing by the end of May. Do you think it's wise for a young girl like me, 24-year-old, to talk to him or not yet? Thank you so much...God bless you! From Greece with love...
Oh that's such a great question - and how awesome that you're in Bible school! :) I don't know that there's necessarily a right or wrong answer; I think it's whatever you decide to do. It could be that he's more become distant because army training can be so intense, and far away. But I think as time passes, especially after he's home, you might be able to get a sense of whether or not he seems interested in hanging out and at least friendship. I don't know if that helps at all?
AMEN!!! TY Tiffany! "Don't forget to look for those things in yourself too" BOOM! I said in my book "You have to be what you want in life!" I appreciate you girl! PS--THAT IS SO FUNNY! "See if he's raising his hands in church" haha I've found that EVERY man is a Christian...CAUSE I AM THAT FOOLISH TO BELIEVE IT! You say "I"m Christian" then I'm supposed to say "GREAT LET'S HANG OUT AND EVENTUALLY DISOBEY THE BIBLE AND TAKE OUR CLOTHES OFF WITHOUT BEING MARRIED!" haha
In other words. It's always good to ask, "Is he good enough for me." It's also better to ask, "Am I good enough for him."
Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
This is the best you guys! Thank you for telling the truth I feel like so many Christian couples will just say what they think they are supposed to say about certain topics instead of being really honest. This is the first youtube talk that I have seen where a Christian girl tells the TRUTH. I am a new fan subscribed ;))))))
Oh, what a good question! We actually recently did a video on submission--not sure if you've seen it yet? But it's our perspective on that verse, and maybe it can help in some way! :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_z3qb4ILEW4&t=7s
Ohhh, that's such a great question!! I think to some extent you can find out from how other people talk about him. So with my husband James, I would often meet people who knew who James was, and they would tell me they felt so loved by him, or that he was a great guy. I think the person's reputation can often speak to how they treat people, if that makes sense. I hope that helps in some way!
These are great!! I love your tips ☺️ My husband and I joke about me always wanting to snuggle too! Before his second deployment he bought me a little golden retriever to snuggle with while he’s gone! Let me tell you, it helps! Now obviously when he’s home we have each other and it’s great but he will joke around sometimes when I want to snuggle and he will just look at our pup and say, “that’s why I bought him” 😋
Before you got married during your single years did you date or were you just strictly single during that time? I’m growing and strengthening my relationship with God and I’ve been single for a year. I went on several dates for about 4 months or so and since I have just been focusing on me and my relationship with God. While I know I still have a lot of growing to do, does that mean I should say no to dates?
What an amazing question! I think this is something each person needs to answer for themselves, but personally, I went on a lot of dates. I only had three boyfriends before my husband, but I would go on dates with all different guys who would ask me, if they were a person I was interested in getting to know. I made a video about that here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wnGLuCUpHI -- oh and also this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N28FvRhvk9E&t=374s -- I hope this can help in some way! :)
Snuggling is a plus haha! Lol don’t judge me guys, I’m a hugger! LOVED this video Tiffany, thank you for sharing all this useful info to us, really put a smile on my face knowing I can continue in my season of growth. So important to be working on ourselves ❤️🙏🏾🌹
I really liked number 1 and 7. I feel like those are applicable to something I'm going through now with a guy. I specifically liked how you said he can worship differently and show his faith differently. But your other tips were so good that I'm now going to write them down to keep them in mind. Also, loved number 8! Literally was laughing out loud haha.
Ha, you just brought a smile on my face (as dis James with tip 8). I find your videos really handy for my duties as a youthpastor, Thanks!
By the way, I noticed a lovely purple-pink new lay-out thing for your text in the video (sorry, don’t know the English word), it really suits you and your content, love it!
I totally agree with looking for a man whose is humble enough to change if called to. I tell all the girls I talk to to look for someone who has a "willing heart". No one can be fully submitted to Christ and not respond well to godly correction (by well I mean not live in denial or remain defensive and unchanged when God speaks).
I've never heard of people going into debt, but I have friends who've spent hundreds or even a thousand on the latest games or gaming tech. It's a bigger problem from a financial perspective then a lot of people know.
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In July of 2012 Kate Upton showed her patriotic side by sporting a teeny bikini on the cover of GQ.
The sexy "Hitch" star gets up close and personal for the July 2010 issue of "W" magazine.
Blake Lively and Leighton Meester.
The "Gossip Girl" co-stars share boyfriends on the show. Why not share an ice cream on the cover of "Rolling Stone?" (March 2009)
Jake Gyllenhaal and Anne Hathaway.
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Not exactly the norm for the mag!
In January 2009, Jen Aniston wore nothing but a tie for the cover of "GQ."
The actress has said that shes not into playing up her sex appeal.
The French edition of Vogue in April 2009 says otherwise.