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The Golden Rule in Christian Dating

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The first and greatest commandment in Christian dating — for you and your significant other — is the same as in all of life: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:30). But after you’ve embraced, applied, and enjoyed the first and greatest commandment, the golden rule in dating is this: Lean hard on the people who know you best, love you most, and will tell you when you’re wrong. We need friends who love God even more than they love us. Only people who love Christ more than they love you will have the courage to tell you that you’re wrong in dating — and give you the encouragement, truth, wisdom, and perspective you need. Read more at http://www.desiringgod.org/the-golden-rule-in-christian-dating
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Mucho Dave (4 months ago)
young men asking.. atheist girl for phone number: a) yeah sure! my name is sophie btw :) b) i have a boyfriend c) phahahahaha! christian girl for phone number: a) eehmm.. ahhh.. mmhhh.. eehhh.. (looks ashamed to friendgroup who observe the scene carefully) b) i'm 18 years old and marrried (that handsome church guy randomly appears) c) well the lord told me my future husband will be half israeli, half brasilian and he is a vegetarian ingenieer who does crossfit and when the seventh trumpet in heaven blows the lord shall speak: THIS IS YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND! YOU CAN SAFELY GO ON A FIRST DATE WITH HIM!
Emma Hurst (5 months ago)
Think about this people God created every thing right? There is love,happiness, and kindness. There is also hate, sarrow,death ,and sin. Who created sin,god . He created every thing and in this world ,but why? All of you are saying how good he his, but what kind of God is he to let people dye of cancer. How much love to you see around you? There is more hate than love in this world. Who created illnesses? God did. Who created death. He did. Did he have to punish Adam and Eve. No. He turned his back to his best friend satan. Satan was beautiful. When he needed God most God turned his back to his. Not such a good God huh?
Man of the north (5 months ago)
Emma Hurst If we assume god is good we also have to assume there is opposite of that which is evil. It automatically exists and is not created. It manifests only trough acts just like goodness manifests trough kind acts. God is obviously capable to do evil but chooses to be good. Evilness breaks and can not build. It corrupts. When man was created God wanted him to be good. In order to man to be able to be good he needed to have free will so he could choose to be good. God wanted so badly man to be good that he made him unaware of evil and unable to do evil deeds. But he needed to preserve the free will so he orderd one thing the man should not do. He wasn't allowed to eat from a one certain trees fruit. He could choose to obey or not. Man decide eat for he was betrayed by satan and became aware of evil and brought death upon himself and his descendants and the world. Now he could also choose to be evil. This happened for evil deeds come with a prize to pay. It corrupted Gods good and perfect world and ruined it. Satan wasn't abandoned by God. He wanted to become like God and overthrow the one who called him to existence. Satan abandoned his high place as a reflector of Gods glory.
Dore Love (6 months ago)
While I agree we need good friends, but they should really stay out of your love life. You need to learn your own boundaries if you weren't raised with healthy ones. Your friends don't live your life, you do. This was an indoctrinated cookie cutter video.
alabamapinksocks (7 months ago)
Amen Jesus! Thank you for this message!!
C Patton (8 months ago)
Good advice but I don't think this person really understands what he is saying. Love your God with ALL YOUR HEART SOUL & MIND. Think about that for a second............ every bit of your consciousness, every bit of your love focused 100% on God at all times 24/7 365 for your whole life. Now I ask who can say they have done this perfectly? Let's not just through these verses out there without really thinking about them.
UKVATO (10 months ago)
Can you please pray that I find my soulmate please !
Old Spastic Yeti (11 months ago)
Dating has gotten rather toxic recently tbh
Rosemary Thomas (11 months ago)
God first in everything, and that is exactly what I have trouble with.
Daniel Adeyemi (7 months ago)
Rosemary Thomas Lol, why do you have a trouble with that if I may ask ?
Really nice message! thank you for sharing and God bless you :)
Thomas Sterrett (1 year ago)
Great advice. I just don't have any close friends I can lean on. Maybe 1 or 2! Then there's a Godly Woman. Where am I supposed too find one of those? Church?! 🤔😊😍
Winnie Patience A (1 year ago)
Thomas Sterrett First of all i would encourage you to build a strong relationship with Christ. As you walk faithfully with Him He will by His Precious Holy Spirit guide to the right people, church and even Godly Christian forums just like this one to meet people who are rooted in Him His ways and Word. Ask the Holy Spirit for discernment. I can help stand with you in prayer and we believe God to connect you to the right people. I am now going to make it a point a pray with you. Our God is able.
HG51 (1 year ago)
God first in all areas of life. Great message
Soo true
ENAHS WIILLE (1 year ago)
so what about if you're in a long distance relationship?
Lae Nga (1 year ago)
Is dating Biblical?
BowRain Meme (1 year ago)
Lae Nga No, dating as a concept didn't exist until the last few centuries, maybe even less. In the Bible, women were usually given to men and they were married.
Leah Chavez (1 year ago)
Why would others dislike this video? It's truly sound and very encouraging to continue in righteousness. Great video, I appreciated everything in it!
Ilse Daniels (1 year ago)
Thank you for this! I'll definitely take your advice :)
Dave (1 year ago)
"Only people who love Christ more than they love you will be courageous enough to step in and tell you when you're wrong."
The OutDoor Son (1 year ago)
Mariana Beatriz (1 year ago)
my favorite video on this topic! Very precise
Faith Jones (1 year ago)
I've been hoping and praying for someone to come into my life to love but no one has come yet
yaowadeez snm (5 months ago)
Rick B I doubt those "hateful christians" were worse than you are right now...
Old Spastic Yeti (9 months ago)
Faith Jones there's still me available ig
Old Spastic Yeti (9 months ago)
Faith Jones yeah the verdict is still out on that for my dream woman as well, i got a lot of personal crap to work on so its probably best for me to keep the insanity to a one-man show lol
Faith Jones (9 months ago)
Rev VanMev No not yet
Old Spastic Yeti (11 months ago)
Faith Jones find your dream guy yet?
The Artist Bros (1 year ago)
God, the one who has created the Heavens and the earth, gave us a standard of righteousness to live by called the ten commandments, or the law. Anytime we are living contrary to the standard that God has required us to live by is considered sin. The disobedience of God's law, which is punishable by death. Sin brings death. the wages of sin are death the Word says. Disobeying an eternal God brings an eternal punishment, Hell.  Hell is the place of punishment your spirit will end up for all eternity for that disobedience against a Holy God. A place of fire and brimstone and weeping and gnashing of teeth, forever.   So God by the law revealed how we should live before a Holy God. Now ALL stand guilty before God with no way to justify ourselves because of this knowledge. For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. No one can live up to the standard that God has set for us. Since we are guilty and sin brings death, the only thing to fix our separation from God through sin is the death of something innocent. A substitute, A sacrifice to take our place. That sacrifice has to be PERFECT or the payment isn't permanent. God is Just so he must bring justice on the ones who break His law but God is also loving and wants to provide a way out. Clearly since the only one to meet God's standard is God, God goes Himself as Jesus.  God became a man, Jesus Christ, and lived the sinless life we couldn't. Jesus, being in the form of God and equal with God came in the righteousness of God, Being perfect in Holiness He fulfilled those requirements for us and willingly became the substitute for the wrath of the Father which was met to be poured out on us, the ones who could not fulfill the Father's standard of holiness. He took all the Full Force of the wrath of God for all the evil that we are, and He bore it. He took God's punishment, becoming our sin and dying with it. Jesus died in our place, taking our sin upon Himself.  The Lord placed on Him the iniquity of us all.Because a perfect sacrifice was the only way to pay a debt for a people as sinful as we are. Someone had to die, so he did it Himself. Cause He wanted us back for Himself. He became payment for a people who could not redeem themselves. Then in three days Jesus rose from the grave by His own power, proving He was God in the flesh and that He had succeeded in paying our debt of sin. Defeating death and the grave meant the redemption was guaranteed, For all who believe. By Jesus paying our penalty in death He frees us from the sin that so easily ensnared us by giving us His righteousness, the Holy Spirit by which He overcome the sin of this world, but only to those who believe in Him and trust in His work of the cross.   All you have to do to be declared innocent is Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ. That His death was enough to pay the penalty for your sins and live a lifestyle of repentance. Which means to change one's mind. To turn away from sin, God makes you a new man in Christ, He is the one who regenerates your person to make you a New Creature. With a new heart and new mind who hates to do sin, and to displease God. When we do sin, which we all do, we will repent and ask God for His mercy and Grace to help us to never do it again. Through the Father's plan Jesus has restored us to a proper relationship with the Father! Now we are Justified by Faith apart from the deeds of the law and are no longer called sinners, but SAINTS!  It is the goodness of God that leads you to REPENTANCE! God is real, and whether you believe in Him or not, you will stand before Him. It comes down to you believe on Jesus or you die and go to hell. There's no way around it and no way to sugarcoat it for you. It's one or the other. You see, Jesus had to be God or nobody is saved.
zxx5 (1 year ago)
Tell me who you walk with, and I'll tell you who you are. Awesome vid ! <3 God bless
Terri (1 year ago)
some of my neighbors here are professing "christians" who practice drunkenness,sleeping around,kids out of wedlock, but are "saved.." i've developed a reputation for calling people out (and i allow ALL to do the same to me..)screwing up and living a life of sin are TWO different things.. when you are NOT convicted about your lifestyle.. be worried.. alot! in the words of one of my former pastors:'better to NOT be assured in salvation than to think you have the cat in the bag..."he of course was saying, that it's better to always "worry" (ask) is this pleasing to the Lord than to have the attitude that you can LIVE as you want. HOW you want, with WHOM you want because God accepts me and doesn't care..if you want that sermon,he used to say, attend Joel Osteen's church..... :))

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