'"It's Only Hugging" | Boundaries In Christian Dating'
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+Kiera Haggarty I am passionate about it because everyone will either go to heaven or hell and j want you to hear the truth that Jesus Christ died for your sins on the cross, was buried, and rose from the grave and you have to believe that to go to heaven or else you go to hell
Having intimacy is perfectly normal for a human being. When I read those things I am just so sorry for all those who try to reach such a high and unnatural standart. Having those needs is perfectly fine! Dont be ashamed of that.
I cant stand how something like hugging is made sexual by Paul and Morgan. Such a bad influence. P & M, I guess your thoughts are already very sexual - because if not then you wouldnt sexualize something like hugging that much. And now you put your interpretation in the minds of your viewers. So sorry for them, especially for the younger ones who will feel guilty for their normal feelings.
WOW! I'm amazed there are still young people who are willing to speak the truth. Nowadays most 'Christian' dating advice consists of 'oh well you can do what you want so long as you ask God for forgiveness. Good you guys
So, what’s worse then? The possibility of sin being committed or a sin itself. Giving in to lust and knowing lust is present are two totally different things. How do we discern that or are they the same? And if they are the same, how can any of us be saved, because being aware of sin is just as bad as committing it?
This argument relies on the slippery slope logical fallacy, which is classified as such because the statement it makes doesn't stand up to scrutiny. If refraining from hugging in the first place keeps the couple from getting more physical by the third and fourth dates, then a couple can stick to just the first hugging example without going further down the road in the same way. This argument doesn't make sense.
I'm sorry but these ideologies of beyond WEIRD.
I like physical touch and I express love by affection. If I was dating a dude and he repeatedly refused to hug me, hold my hand or let the world know that I'm his woman-- that is called a friendship. Not a prospective partner. I don't know where these ideologies come from or why the current church is so obsessed with how people date. I don't even know how I ended up on these weird videos but it makes me sad to think that there are people out there that feel "bad' for hugging their boyfriend. IF i'm not sexually attracted to my boyfriend, I won't even consider marrying him. end of story. IF i have no desire for him, I will not even consider dating him. I am human. I have sexual feelings and desires to pro-create and not only pro-create but to have sex. I'm not going to feel bad or say sorry about that. It's about where I choose to act on these desires. So i guess the only christian solution for me is to have an arranged marriage...these videos are whack. But it was interesting to see what the hype is about.
...Why are you sexualizing hugging? If somebody isn't personally comfortable with hugging, yeah, don't hug. But don't try to convince other people not to hug in case they'll be "tempted." People hug platonic friends and family members all the time. Equating it with sex is not healthy. And honestly, after looking at stuff both for and against purity culture, even though I'm not against encouraging people to wait, I have to admit that a lot of the tactics used to teach it when I was a kid probably led to my feelings of discomfort and shame regarding sex. For example, throughout my pre-teen and teenage years I equated the sensation of arousal with God warning me that I was sinning. That's... not a healthy attitude. Sex is supposed to be a good, uplifting thing between partners, but I'm honestly not sure I even want to date, partially because the idea of sex scares me. Going too far with preaching purity can and does cause harm.
I was feeling kinda sad when I saw your video about your thoughts on the LGBT community because y’all seemed to be mainstream Christian but then I realized...y’all are the kinda Christians that y’all don’t believe in hugging and kissing before marriage... what the heck
Want to share our story:
My husband and I have been married for many, many years! We met at church. He was our Youth Director and I was the Youth Secretary.
- [ ] He ask me out in December . . . at that time I didn’t even call him by his first name.
- [ ] He proposed the following month . . . January.
- [ ] He gave me my engagement ring in February . . . yes, the next month.
- [ ] We were married 40 days later . . . in March.
During this 3 month period, I skipped most of my college classes and spent many hours with him at his home. We hugged and kissed because we were ”so in love”! I must tell you more info:
- [ ] I was 22 and he was 29.
- [ ] I was 100% a virgin. I have never even gone out with a guy who was forward.
- [ ] My husband was a widower . . . thus sex and its accompanying urges was not new to him.
Not once did he act other than a perfect gentleman. He would sometimes say, “We’ve got to stop kissing!” And I would stop momentarily . . . but I enjoyed it so much, that stoppage was usually pretty brief!!! Later he told me he was so afraid he would do something wrong and I would not marry him.
So on my wedding night I was 100% a virgin. He was the most loving, gentle husband anyone could ask for . . . and thus, I loved sex.
ps: We will celebrate 50 years of marriage this coming March 17 !!!
I didn't hug my wife until we were in the presence of a priest on our wedding day. Best decision of my life. God will lead you the way you are supposed to walk. That path is as far away from a partners body as possible. UNTIL you are officially accepted by the lord.
God Bless you guys! I just started watching your videos and you guys are literally what I’ve been praying for! I’m single and looking for a guy who loves the lord with all his heart and keeps him first and being able to see the way you guys are together gives me so much hope that my future husband is out there. And future friends cause you guys are the type of people I pray for to be in my life. I just went through a lot in life and had to choose my God over my friends and what I had planned. He saved my life and just about 9 months ago I came to Christ and he put such a different vision in my head as to what my life could be. Thank you guys for these videos and being you! Cause this gives me so much hope that his vision for me will come true!
Lady Underwood He’s a waste because he is a homophobe who uses his religion to discriminate against others, and he and his partner are extremely obnoxious and close minded. He is spreading toxic ideas that suppress biological desires that are completely natural, and do not need to be shamed to such an extent. If you think that’s sweet, cool. But I don’t. And my comment was not even to be taken seriously.
I am a christian and I do not believe in sex before marriage but I do not agree with this. Yes hugging can lead to more but not when you are in a public place and also if you set clear boundaries with the person you are dating. I love hugs, that is how I express my love, with my guy friends maybe not that often but my girl friends all the time. I had a deep conversation with one of my guy friends, it was intents, after the conversation I just needed to give him a big hug. Do you think that is wrong? I don't think so.. I really do believe it is all about a mindset and communication honestly. I do however see where you are coming from tho :)
I go to my church dances we hold every few months, and I usually hug the guy I dance with after each slow song! Hugging is only disgusting if you make it that way. It’s real innocent if you do it in the appropriate way at the appropriate time 😄
As someone who grew up conservative christian and as someone who has had several sexual partners and am not married and don’t really believe in the western idea of “marriage”. I get boundaries are personal and you have to respect someone’s but i don’t think having different boundaries as someone else means they don’t respect their body. Give a man an inch and he’ll put in 6. As for myself personally I’m glad I didn’t wait until marriage because they are people i’ve slept with that i am not in any way shape or form sexually compatible. We shouldn’t shame those who wait or don’t wait. We all sin differently 🤷🏼♀️
Paul and Morgan You understand the entire Bible? Good for you guys! I’m 100% honest with myself and know I don’t understand the whole Bible in every way God wants us to understand it, and I know the same goes for everyone else on this planet, but if you were given the revelation to understand the whole Bible awesome for you! One thing I DO understand though? That everyone’s walk is different. I actually care 0% if you have a tattoo but I said it to make a point, you too believe hugging leads to other stuff. Most people don’t, there are people who believe tatts etc. aren’t “Godly”. You see how this can go tit for tat? Everyone’s walk is different if you want to sexualize your own body with different stuff go ahead but don’t sexualize the rest of us. Thank you.
Hahaa I had sex with my husband the first night we hang out. A year later I got pregs, he went into the Army and we got MARRIED ! I love him and my baby boy more than anything ! I am Christian and I believe this was Gods plan for us, even if our story is "out of order"
Omg guys I was having a little mini panic attack and this video just calmed me down. Just hearing about you speak about the Lord has just soothed me! I’m trying to drown out some inner noise, God bless
I think it might be important for us to keep in mind they are specifically talking about in a dating environment. Implying that there are romantic feelings involved. Yes, the chance that a hug with a friend you have no romantic feelings for will lead no where. But, in the case of a romantic interest they're saying not to invite that type of temptation into your life/ relationship.
Why are you guys making hugging a big deal? You hug your mom and your dad and your friends. Hugs are meant to be a friendly gesture. When I hug my boyfriend, we hug because we like hanging out with each other and enjoy each other's company, not because we want to have sex. We have agreed not to have sex before marriage.
Very easy fix is to have a conversation about boundaries before you start a relationship. If a guy wanted heavy petting or getting into various states of undress or any non penetrative sex before marriage I would have to say no thanks. And if another guy said I can't hug you or hold your hand or look into your eyes because I'd get lustful I would have to say no thanks. Pretty simple.
Morgan I'm like you.um...like not really respecting the boundaries .I think girls are a little more clueless when it comes to some things. Sometimes we wear/do certain things to just look &feel pretty but we don't know what we are doing sexually to the guy unless we are told(I know I need to change my profile pic) but my mom has always said what you all are saying.i swear it's weird
Don’t pick and choose what’s a sin and what isn’t. You guys are putting out a message that frontal hugging and kissing and other normal signs of affection are wrong before marriage but I see a tattoo on her arm. If you are going to interpret the Bible in such a literal sense then follow all of it not just what you like.
You know what. They actually seem like a really nice couple. And if it works for them... you do you boo. But it seems so weird to me to not be physically affectionate with someone you love. It can create such a strong bond. And I am not even talking about sex. Just being intimate by kissing, cuddling, hugging, tickling, play fighting. Things like that.
People. Chill.. They didn’t say that hugging is, or need to be a sexual thing!
BUT You all (who have ever hugged someone you have badly crushed on) Know that, you just want more after that..
No, you can’t deny it..
I am very pro-abstinence, but hugging is not sexual. If you think it is, you have a problem. You also have a problem if you think you are supposed to touch the person's butt when you hug them. I shouldn't have to say this, but please stop touching people's butts, or any other parts that are covered when a bathing suit is worn. We learned this in kindergarten. It's fine to hug everybody -- grownups, old people, kids, dogs and cats.
Thank you, you both for speaking the truth and communicating so biblically and for taking this topic so seriously! Its definitely something I need in my life. I am so glad you guys are doing this even with all of these terrible comments!
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